June 14, 2018
We’ve talked before about the do’s and don’ts of etiquette for the wording on your wedding invitations before, but how do you actually address them? And what about the envelopes? If you want them to be properly addressed, there are a few rules to follow, so here’s an easy chart for you to keep up with it all! (If you want an even easier – and prettier – way to keep up with it, hire a calligrapher!)
Addressing the Invitation:
A Married Couple
Invitation Envelope:
Mr. John and Mrs. Becky Holt
Or
Mr. and Mrs. John Holt
Response Card / Inner Envelope:
Mr. and Mrs. Holt
Or
John and Becky
A Married Couple w/ Different Last Names
Invitation Envelope:
Mr. John Holt and Mrs. Becky Carr
Response Card / Inner Envelope:
Mr. Holt and Mrs. Carr
Or
John and Becky
An Unmarried Couple Living Together
Invitation Envelope:
Mr. John Holt
Ms. Becky Carr
Response Card / Inner Envelope:
Mr. Holt
Ms. Carr
A Same-Sex Couple
Invitation Envelope:
Ms. Anna Lucas and Ms. Crystal Smith
Or
Anna Lucas and Crystal Smith
Response Card / Inner Envelope:
Ms. Lucas and Ms. Smith
Or
Anna and Crystal
Children and Families
Invitation Envelope:
Mr. and Mrs. John Holt
Daniel, Jeffrey, Brittany, and Kelly
Response Card / Inner Envelope:
Mr. and Mrs. John Holt
and children
Children 18 and Older
Invitation Envelope:
Ms. Kelly Rivers
Or
Mr. Daniel Hodge
Response Card / Inner Envelope:
Ms. Rivers
Or
Mr. Hodge
Note: If you don’t include each child’s name, you’re implying that children are not invited. That said, don’t be surprised if some guests still mistakenly assume their children are welcome. If you’re concerned this will happen with your guests, ask your immediate family and bridal party to help spread the word that the wedding will be ADULTS ONLY and add the message to your wedding website. In the end, you may have to follow up with guests who don’t get the message via phone to gently explain the situation.
Addressing the Envelope:
Type of Guest |
Outer Envelope |
Inner Envelope |
Unmarried Female | Ms. Susan Miller | Ms. Miller |
Divorced Female,
uses married name |
Mrs. Victoria Carson
or Ms. Victoria Carson |
Mrs. Carson and Guest
or Ms. Carson and Guest |
Unmarried Male | Mr. Thomas Blair | Mr. Blair and Guest |
Married Couple | Mr. and Mrs. Victor Gordon | Mr. and Mrs. Gordon |
Unmarried Couple living together | Mr. Timothy Hillman and Ms. Cynthia Newman | Mr. Hillman and Ms. Newman |
Inviting Children
(List children in order of age) |
Mr. and Mrs. Gene Proctor | Mr. and Mrs. Proctor
David, Alexis and Sarah |
Judge | The Honorable and Mrs. Jay Fellmyer | Judge and Mrs. Fellmyer |
Clergy | The Reverend Donald Hitchcock | The Reverend Hitchcock |
Doctor (medical)
(Spell out the word “Doctor”) |
Doctor William Fitzgerald | Doctor Fitzgerald and Guest |
Doctor (PhD)
(Abbreviate the word “Doctor”) |
Dr. William Fitzgerald | Dr. Fitzgerald and Guest |
Married Woman Doctor
(Women’s name goes first if she outranks husband) |
Doctor Kerri Brendon
Mr. Scott Brendon |
Doctor Brendon
Mr. Brendon |
Married Couple, Both PhD or Medical Doctors | Drs Robert and Elise Williams
or Dr. Robert Williams and Dr. Elise Williams |
The Doctors Williams |
Colonel – Man | Colonel and Mrs. Jay Sconer | Colonel and Mrs. Sconer |
Officer – Woman | Lieutenant Corin Adams, U.S. Navy
Mr. Christopher Adams |
Lieutenant Adams
Mr. Adams |
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